Monday, May 25, 2009

Reflections this Memorial Day...

When I was 14 years old, my favorite uncle was shot down in Vietnam, and the missing him is as strong today as it was when I was a child.

He will always be young in my mind, playing the trombone, driving a turquoise and cream Chevrolet Bel Air and taller than any adult I had ever seen. He left behind his wife (my favorite aunt) and a son and daughter, too.

When I moved from Oregon to Virginia, one of the first things I wanted to do was visit the Vietnam Memorial and find his name and put a picture of the car he had, as I had no photos of him. The memorial is the most moving place to be, and my favorite, if that is the right word, of all the monuments I have visited, because it is so, somber, that feeling of going underground. But also such a wonderful tribute to those who never made it back to their homes, their families, their lives ahead of them...

I had never googled his name before, but I did today and this is what I found...

Name: Ralph Carol Balcom, Jr.
Rank/Branch: O3/US Air Force
Date of Birth: 24 December 1933
Home City of Record: Seattle WA
Date of Loss: 15 May 1966
Country of Loss: North Vietnam (see text)
Loss Coordinates: 171200N 1064000E (XE100100)
Status (in 1973): Missing In Action
Category: 1
Aircraft/Vehicle/Ground: F105D
Other Personnel In Incident: None Missing

Source: Compiled by Homecoming II Project 15 March 1991 from one or more of the following: raw data from U.S. Government agency sources, correspondence with POW/MIA families, published sources, interviews. Updated by the P.O.W. NETWORK 1998.

SYNOPSIS: Ralph Balcom Jr. was shot down over North Vietnam about 20 miles north of the Demilitarized Zone in Quang Binh Province. A radio signal indicated that Major Balcom had parachuted to the ground, but because of zero visibility at the time, search planes were not able to locate and rescue him.

Two months later a propaganda film appeared with a man Ralph's parents immediately recognized as their son being paraded down the streets of Hanoi. The U.S. Government later identified the man as a returned POW Kyle Berg, also from the state of Washington.

In November 1973, the Air Force discovered that Joint Casualty Resolution Center (JCRC) in Nakhon Phanom was carrying Balcom as a Prisoner of War while Defense Intelligence Agency carried him as Missing In Action. The Air Force directed JCRC to delete any reference pertaining to POW status in Balcom's files. Balcom's status was changed from Prisoner of War to Missing in Action, although analysts say today that JCRC records were the most accurate and complete because of their close proximity to the region.

JCRC also lists Balcom as being lost in Laos, not North Vietnam. The loss coordinates, 171200N 1064000E are in North Vietnam about 20 miles north of the DMZ. Grid coordinates XE100100 are located a few miles northwest of the Ban Karai Pass in Laos. It cannot be determined why there is a descrepancy in loss locations between agencies.

Today, over 43 years have passed since Ralph Balcom's last flight over Vietnam. His family is still not sure whether he is alive or dead. Over 10,000 reports of Americans still held captive have been received by the U.S. Isn't it time we brought these men home?

Ralph C. Balcom was promoted to the rank of Colonel during the period he was maintained a Prisoner of War and Missing in Action.

To my dear uncle...I will never forget.


  1. oh my gosh - what a story - and not to know if he is dead or alive, how awful.
    Blessing to your family

  2. Wow, so glad you posted this. We do need to be reminded that there are real people out there with loss to war, to our heroes who are dedicated to the protection of us and our rights to be free.

    Many blessings to you and your family for what you have lived so many years with.

  3. Wow. Thank you Teri. I appreciate it like you don't know that you took the time to write about my dad. I didn't know you knew that much about him but think it's very cool. I've kept bugging the AF over the years and do have a little more info about his loss circumstances but we are at a dead end yet again for now. I hang my gaden flag out front on POW Day, his loss date, and of course Memorial Day. I like it cuz Chels' friends will ask about it and it's an opportunity to talk about the issue to a younger generation. I didn't follow your blogs til know (yep, lame cousin & worse corresponder) but I'm gonna try to do a better job :D

  4. Hello, I found your post when I was looking for info re:Major Ralph Balcom, your relative..I have kept my POW/MIA bracelet all these years with his name on it..Was wondering if anyone in your family would like to have this. I was hoping & praying that the news would have been better. Thanks..

  5. Hi Teri. Thanks so much for caring and posting this information for others to see. It means a lot that you still have love for my father and his family. I envy you your memories of him, and wish I could have known him. The frustration of uncertainty about his fate remains, but I know there are brave men and women who are still searching for answers. These amazing people volunteer for this duty, and endure incredible hardships in their efforts. I salute and thank them all. To catfuzzygolf, I also say thank you for your kind words and for wearing/keeping his bracelet all these years. Sorry for not writing sooner, Teri. Include me in my sister's "lame cousin and worse corresponder" comment! Take care!

  6. hello..if anyone in your family wants the bracelet, please reply to



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